So for women who have a partner, how does their partner feel about their DIY?
In 2019, TENGA released another report that surveyed heterosexual couples’ perceptions of each other’s masturbation.
The survey found that although less than half of Chinese people are happy to let their partners masturbate, the reasons for disliking it vary between men and women.
Girls don’t like their male partners masturbating, mostly because they reject “masturbation” themselves – they think it’s sinful, dirty, and shameful – it can be speculated that women who hate their partners’ masturbation, their own I rarely masturbate.
For boys, the reason they don’t like their partner masturbating is more because they are not present when their partner is masturbating – in other words, they don’t hate masturbation, but they hate themselves for not being “involved”.
Boys are actually psychologically “fragile” and are more afraid of being ignored in their sex life
The vast majority of men believe that having sex with a partner is more interesting than DIY, but 10% of women surveyed feel that DIY is more enjoyable – it can be seen that masturbation has an even more unshakable status for women.
Why do women still masturbate when they have a partner? I think it has three positive meanings:
1) It is difficult for most women to achieve orgasm in submerged sex, either because the vagina is not sensitive at all, or because the heat is not enough for a partner and hastily withdraw… But in DIY, girls can control the massage location and rhythm by themselves, The length of time, stop after the peak experience – so masturbation may be their “dinner”, a shortcut to physical satisfaction;
2) Although girls can “make their own clothes and food”, it does not mean that they will lose their partner’s life… Kissing, hugging and gentle caress can bring satisfaction that DIY cannot give, so a high-quality ‘s partner will never be replaced because of this;
In addition to our sexual organs, we actually have a lot of erogenous zones waiting to be developed
3) Girls masturbation can unlock their own sexual pleasure zone, and after that, openly communicate with their partners about the feelings of masturbation, in addition to mutual understanding (many boys don’t even know where the clitoris is the source of women’s orgasm) ), it can also add interest, so why not do it?
DIY is innocent, and the partner's sexual concept should also be updated in time
DIY is great, but if your man is furious when he finds out that you DIY, how should you communicate with him?
As shown in the previous survey, most men dislike partner masturbation, not because of rejection, but because of fear of being ignored and replaced. So in this case, communicate with him first.
If it is for the latter reason, try adding some interactive elements next time. For example: some girls like to DIY in front of their partners, and regard this as a kind of flirting and warm-up; some girls will use their partner’s body to “masturbate”, feed themselves, and then move on to the next step…
In any case, there are ways to be compatible with DIY satisfaction and partner self-esteem.
If your partner still can’t take it…then just ask yourself: Are you willing to give up the joy of DIY for a man? I believe that most girls who have experienced the peak taste in self-pleasure are absolutely unwilling.
So, if he can’t update his sexual concept in time, you have to consider whether it is time to change to a new partner in time. After all, a man who is selfish in sex is not going to do much better in other areas of his life.
How do you understand the relationship between DIY and your partner?