Am I Broken?
“Why doesn’t it work for me?” This is the most common question we hear. You might feel like everyone else has a secret manual for intimacy that you missed. When your reactions don’t match standard relationship advice or what you see in movies, it is easy to spiral into self-doubt. You aren’t broken; you simply haven’t identified your unique sexual preferences. The first step to healthy intimacy isn’t fixing yourself—it’s understanding yourself through a sex personality test.
Translating Your Desire
Think of desire as a language. If you speak French and your partner speaks Japanese, shouting louder won’t help you understand each other. You need a translator. The ROFIYTI test acts as this translator, serving as a comprehensive intimacy assessment. It takes your vague, sometimes shameful feelings and converts them into a clear desire profile composed of neutral desire types. It shifts the conversation from “What is wrong with me?” to “Oh, this is how I function.”
Mind-First
You need context, safety, and imagination before your body responds. You aren’t “slow”; your mind is the gatekeeper to your pleasure.
Sensation-First
You respond immediately to touch and physical presence. You aren’t “aggressive”; your body leads the conversation.
Mind-First vs. Sensation-First
For example, our research identifies two distinct processing styles.
A Scenario for Two
Imagine a Saturday night. Partner A (Sensation-First) leans in for a kiss, ready to go. Partner B (Mind-First) pulls back, feeling pressured because their mind hasn’t switched gears from “work mode” yet. A feels rejected; B feels inadequate, straining their compatibility in relationships. This isn’t a lack of love; it’s a mismatch of desire types. Effective partner communication changes this dynamic. If they knew their types, B could say, “I need 20 minutes to decompress and talk first,” and A would understand this isn’t a rejection, but a requirement for B’s engine to start.
What to Do Next
Knowledge is relief. Once you complete the sex personality test, you receive a detailed report. We encourage you to share this with your partner to deepen your romantic connection. It serves as a neutral third party—a scientifically grounded document that says, “See? This is just how I am wired.” It validates your needs, facilitating better bedroom communication without you having to defend them.
